I have been reading an amazing book lately though. I'm only halfway through and I wholeheartedly recommend it. It is:
Cleaning House: A Mom's Twelve-Month Experiment to Rid Her Home of Youth Entitlement by Kay Wills Wyma
which has nothing to do with my issues right now but I have been implementing some of her ideas with my 5, 3, and 1 year old and it is kind of changing our life for the better.
I think anyone who has kids of any age in the home can benefit from reading this.